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The Control and Blame Game - Part 3 of Addiction is a Family Disease

Trying to control it
As family members of addicts, we often try everything we can think of to get our loved one to stop drinking or using drugs. We feel responsible for making sure they are okay and that they have everything wefeel they need. This usually leaves us feeling frustrated. We tell ourselves that surely there is somethingwecando,buttherealityis,theaddictsthemselvescan’tevencontrol it.
So how in the world are WE going to get themto?
If the addict is not ready to reach out for help, guess what? Our efforts to try and force them to admit they need help usually cause more issues. Only when the consequences of their addiction become painful enough will they reach out for help. Unfortunately, we can’t force them to get help and there is not much we can do until they realize they have a problem and reach out for that help. We can however step back and hand the controls back to the one who CAN control it. By doing that, we relieve so much pressure that we have put on ourselves from t…

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How Do You Do This? - Part 2 of Addiction is a Family Disease

Part 2 of the series is below, taken from the literature handed out by Families in Addiction (Hot Springs, Arkansas - with their permission). 
Just like my addict, I thought I could handle things on my own.
You can't.
It will break you to the point you can't think straight.
Take a minute, breathe, and realize you are just as addicted as your addict. Your drug of choice is them.
God bless all of you reading this and remember: YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Stay strong,

Thisisthe#1questionwe allask, followed by: 1.Howdo I getthroughthismess? 2.Howdo I stopenabling? 3.Am I   lovingtheaddicttodeath? 4.Howdo I just “WAIT”?